Category: motherhood
All you need to know.
Last year, on the first day of fourth grade, Edie’s teacher went around the room and asked each child to use one word to describe themselves. Edie’s word? “Awesome”.
Come the parent teacher conference the first week in November and Edie’s teacher was in full agreement with her. It became sort of a running theme in school last year, with one of her friends, who had to write about her in an assignment, wrote, “The reason Edie tells people she’s awesome is because she only tells people what they what they really need to know.”
Edie played soccer for the same coach for 5 seasons – from the time she moved up to U-10 in second grade until this past spring. Coach Bill isn’t coaching U-12 this season, so we had to find a new team, which meant a new coach. While she’s on a team with her school friends for the first time ever, her new coaches don’t know that she prefers to play defense, they are all about following the league rules and having all the girls play all the positions. Which means everyone gets at a turn at goalie.
She’s never played goalie. Last season when asked, she told Coach Bill she wasn’t playing goalie because she could break a nail.
Seriously. Instead, she played defense and probably saved more goals than the girl who played goalie that day, only because she couldn’t use her hands, her nails were safe.
These are the things that truly matter to my girl.
Saturday morning as we were setting up by the sidelines, we noticed Edie wearing a goalie shirt. “Did she know she was playing goalie?” “I don’t know, she didn’t mention it.”
Turns out, she didn’t know until about 2 minutes before the game started. So, with absolutely no experience, no practice and no warning, she stepped into the goal box.
Of course the ball immediately came her way. And stayed down there most of the half. Pat counted 5 saves within the first 5 minutes of the game. The team they played were fast, tall and good. No way could you tell she’d not ever played that position before. She had 10 saves in all the first half, giving up just one to a girl who was just so determined to score a goal you could see it on her face as she charged up the field over and over.
I am so proud of my girl, who just stepped in and DID it. Sure, she has her moments of serious not-quite-11-year-old girl attitude, some of her limit pushing these days has us at our limits trying to figure out how to deal with it, she even has her moments of self doubt, but she also has this wonderful ability to pick things up and just run with it, fearlessly, and kick ass at it. She really does tell you all you need to know when she describes herself as awesome. I may be slightly biased, but I couldn’t agree more.
Scenes from a weekend.
Random.
My left hip has been aching all summer. It gets worse when I don’t work out, don’t wear proper footwear and don’t stretch it, but even doing those things, it’s been aching for months. I’m starting to think I should have it looked at by a professional. I’m convinced I have arthritis in it and that this is my long, slow decline into old age and frail health. The instructor of the pedal & kettle class I take a few times a week keeps talking about this fabulous yoga class that she swears is almost as good as a deep tissue massage. Pat & Edie do yoga, but I have always dismissed it, because I like cardio and only cardio. But this instructor made a convincing argument, so I thought, why not? Yesterday, I took my very first yoga class at the gym. She did a good bit of Yin Yoga. Holy moly did it cure what ailed me. Hip pain? Gone. Tight IT Band? Loosened. Sore lower back? No more. I’ve become a yoga convert. I will definitely be doing that more.
I had to buy Edie new soccer cleats last week. Did you know the cheapest women’s cleats start out $20 more expensive than the most expensive kid’s cleats? Of course she really liked the $105 ones. And the $95 ones. But settled on the $40 ones (as if she had a choice). And then proceeded to leave them on the front porch in the rain, so even though they’ve been worn for exactly one game, they have that wonderful cat-pee like smell her soccer shoes never fail to develop emanating from them already.
Awesome.
Her Language Arts teacher asked her if she knew what a Thesaurus was and if she had one at home. Edie had no clue what the teacher was talking about, but as the teacher started explaining it to her, she volunteered that it sounded an awful lot like the word book her mother had bought and put in her bathroom, for when she ‘needed something to read’. The teacher then told her it reflected in her vocabulary and to keep on reading it.
That’s my secret for having a smart sounding kid – leave a thesaurus in the bathroom for her to read.
I’m not even going to speculate on what that teacher thinks of our family. At least I pulled out what Edie considered the owner’s manual to her parents. That’s how I got the idea for leaving a thesaurus in her bathroom, as she really will read anything we leave lying around and if she’s going to walk around quoting things she read in ‘the office’ then, it had better be good.
Since I did the piece on The Festy working on becoming a zero waste music festival in last week’s Green Homes and Living, I am now on the press list for the event. I’ve gotten several offers to interview bands playing there this weekend. I’ve decided this means I’m a food, wine, green living AND music writer.
I might be a music writer, but I had to turn down the free passes that I was offered for the festival. Pat’s working Saturday, I’m working Sunday, his folks are coming, Edie’s soccer game is out in Crozet smack dab in the middle of the day Saturday (ugh, I hate schlepping out there), the Fall Fiber Festival is this weekend and I haven’t the slightest clue how I’m fitting that last one in. Edie will not hear we might not make it to the sheepdog trials this year, so I suspect it will be another one of those GO Saturdays from start to finish. Sigh. I’m already exhausted from the weekend and it’s only Thursday.
We’ve gotten the next swap lined up for Sunday, November 11. The Charlottesville Cooking School is swapping us to use the space. I’m also trying out a new website that organizes your event for you. I think I was able to link it to Cville Swap’s Facebook page. Technology can be challenging.
We had company last evening, who requested we watch the debate. I’m over this election – the rhetoric, the vitriol, the multiple nightly polling questions (they love to call on Tuesdays. Tuesdays we are guaranteed a minimum of 4 polling calls) thanks to the fact that we live in a ‘swing state’, the canvassers knocking on our door all weekend, all of it. I’m ready for November 7th already. I successfully avoided both conventions and was hoping to do the same with the debates. No such luck. Thank goodness for bourbon and knitting to distract me so I didn’t fully have to pay attention. Even though I’m pretty much over it, I found myself liking the post Patience put up this morning. Good food for thought.
It happens.
I used to hear women say they hadn’t had time for shower that day and I would wonder to myself, how freaking hard is it to take a shower? Especially when it was women with older kids – you didn’t have to worry about what they were doing while you took a few minutes to lock yourself in the bathroom with hot running water. And most especially when it was women who didn’t work outside the house. Really, what were you doing all day that left no time for a shower?
I now find myself among those women and I sincerely apologize to all of you that I had previously mentally judged.
Take yesterday for instance. I got up, got Edie off to school. I had made plans to meet Nancy at the gym for a class at lunchtime, so I ran some errands and got dinner started and figured I’d take a shower after my workout. No need for two showers really. I sat down and put together the schedule for my Girl Scout troop for the year, having had a mom’s gathering the night before to finalize our details, and got it sent out. I realized I wanted to take Snapfish up on their 99 prints for 99 cents deal that expired yesterday because I haven’t printed out any photos in eons and I really should. So, I started going through photos and uploading them, finding the process much quicker than I had anticipated. I took off to go to the gym, dinner halfway done, photos halfway loaded, feeling pretty good about things.
And then, somehow, my day got derailed. I spent a little more time than I had intended at the gym, when Nancy convinced me to try doing pull-ups with her after our workout and stretch. She’s in great shape and I have noticed a difference in my clothes since I started working out with her on a regular basis, so if she asks me to try something, I figure why not? Instead of paying for my own personal trainer, I just work out with her.
So I came home and thought I’d finish uploading photos which shouldn’t take too long, because the first round didn’t take long. First the website showed I’d loaded them, then it didn’t, so I went back through and reloaded, only to discover that the first process had gone through, so then I had to edit and sort through which photos I wanted to print. We’re talking over 100 photos and next thing I knew, it was almost 3 pm.
It was a night I was doing Dinnaah, my meals to go, and I had quite a few orders, as I was serving a very popular curried sweet potato, spinach and quinoa dish. I went out to the garden to harvest some of my spinach and somehow managed to clip my finger with my clippers while I was harvesting. I finally got my main dish going on the stove when Nancy showed up, having just picked up her youngest from after school clubs, wanting to know if I could put some books I’d promised her on her Kindle. So, dinner’s on the stove, and I’m looking on my hard drive for those books when Edie comes through the door with a friend, looking for a snack. They have exactly 25 minutes to grab a snack, get their gear and head back up to school for soccer practice, so I hand Edie a loaf of baguette I’d baked the night before, tell her there’s cheese and fruit in the fridge, make a fruit & cheese plate. Her presentation was flawless and even if she didn’t clean up the cutting board and knife, she did wrap the bread & cheese back up and put them away. So, the girls are chattering away, nibbling on bread & cheese and fruit when Betty comes in, announcing that when I heard her son Ben yelling the afternoon before, it was because he had broken his arm again, the second time since June. (Edie & I had heard him yelling for his mom and I had started out to check on him because I could hear in his voice something was wrong, but by the time I got up there, Betty was pulling out in her car and now I know they were headed to the ER). So, while she’s telling the story of Ben’s latest ER broken arm adventure to Nancy & myself, Edie & Claire & Alayna were chattering away, I’m trying to figure out where that book is on my harddrive and making sure I don’t burn dinner.
Just as quickly as my living room filled up, it emptied out, as everyone had places to be. I finished dinner, got orders wrapped up and was getting ready to start baking cupcakes for my friend Rebecca’s birthday, as I had invited her & her daughter down for dinner in celebration that night. The phone rang and it was Rebecca, asking if I was ready for her to drop Charlotte off. She’d asked if Charlotte could come down and play when they first got home when I had invited her to dinner on Thursday, as they were getting ready to go on a trip and she wanted to get packed. I had somehow forgotten that Thursday was Thursday, meaning that Edie had an after school club followed by soccer followed by an immediate playdate that I had set up for her with Charlotte, only she wasn’t home yet and she had homework she hadn’t done because she’d had yoga club followed by soccer practice and Thursday is THURSDAY. So I told Rebecca to go ahead and drop Charlotte off, Edie wasn’t home yet, but Charlotte could help me make Rebecca’s cupcakes.
Meanwhile, people were stopping by to pick up dinner and commenting on the fact that we had an empty keg sitting by the front gate. (We are cleaning out the basement – Pat had intended to use it in brewing beer at home, but then realized that just wasn’t going to happen, so he posted it on Freecycle and left it out there to get picked up, making the entrance to our house resemble the entrance to all the houses I lived in college. The universe is shaped exactly like the earth, if you go straight along enough you’ll wind up where you were.) Charlotte was helping to man the door, help whip up chocolate truffle filled cupcakes (the recipe is one I’ve posted before from Cook’s Illustrated, it’s damn good and quite easy) and write some last minute photo descriptions as part of wrapping up my big free lance project. Pat had to attend a public meeting on behalf of work last night, thankfully, this one was in town which meant he was only gone but a few hours, but it still meant he wasn’t home and Edie had a question about her math homework that I was totally unable to answer. Edie surpassed my math skills at some point in second grade and why not ask Betty’s son Ben, who’s good at math. So we ran down there, saw the new cast and after a few eye rolls, both of them expressing complete disdain for me admitting to my shortcomings and making them actually speak to each other, Ben was able to answer Edie’s question in about oh, 5 seconds.
I’m really pretty sure she gets a good idea of what it would be like to actually have an older brother in her exchanges with Ben.
By the time the homework was done, frosting made and on the cupcakes (again, with a huge effort on behalf of 9 year old Charlotte, who can whip some egg whites by hand I tell you), and I had finally managed to sit down to breathe with a glass of wine, Rebecca walked through the door and it was time for dinner. We ate, had dessert, the girls put on a show and suddenly, it was 8 o’clock and I was still in the clothes I had worked out in, unshowered. Cleaning the kitchen took the very last of the energy I had – I was cold, I was tired and I was sore – not sure if it was from my workout and my big 5 pull-ups earlier in the day or leftover from an earlier workout in the week that I didn’t stretch enough after – or my marathon day that had gone off rail or if I was just sore from being cold, because I now get stiff and sore from just getting cold. Awesome. If this is September and I’m 42, I cannot wait for January when I’m say, 60.
At any rate, by the time I finished arguing with Edie about bedtime and had delivered Ben some cupcakes, I was too tired to bother with a shower, so I just crawled into my own bed, realizing that when I worked in an office and had a younger child, I had way more time to take a shower. I’m not sure how I got to this point in my life, but here I am. I really didn’t have 5 minutes to take a shower yesterday.
Plan B.
The plan was for an group playdate at the park for my Girl Scout troop after school yesterday.
Despite my saying we weren’t going to continue once they left their elementary school, they all asked if we could please do Girl Scouts again this year. They have so many other activities, I hesitated to say yes, until I realized that what they wanted was the social aspect – they wanted to know that they had time set aside here & there for their old pack of friends in the middle of making new friends at a new school. So I said yes. I’m a sucker for those girls.
We’re not officially starting it off until they are more settled in school, but I thought a get together would be good for the girls. I thought they could all walk down to the park, I’d have a nice snack and they could play together until they had to run off to their other activities.
I knew there was a chance of rain in the forecast, as there has been all week. But for the first time in days, the sun was actually out yesterday. Until about 10 minutes before the girls were due to be released from school. The clouds rolled in, but I perserved, having packed my little red wagon with a cooler of bottled water, tablecloth and napkins, a big bowl of grapes and a very special treat, what we call “Uncle George’s O’Henry Bars” – named for the fishing buddy of Pat who gave me the recipe after I downed about half a pan of them at his house one night. One of the very recipes in my repertoire that isn’t completely from scratch and super healthy.
Normally, I ask that parents send a healthy snack. I specifically request fruit, no sugary treats, because I don’t give a rats behind what any study says, you put sugar in that group of girls and get ready to peel them off walls.
As the some of the girls came up the street, thunder boomed. I had the girls break down the park set up and bring it back to the house. I ran around my house, totally unprepared for nine 10 year old girls. I moved the coffee table out of the living room, spread the tablecloth and declared it a ‘floor picnic’. They devoured their snack, piled on my sofa and started crawling the walls.
My living room is exactly eight and a half feet wide by eleven feet long. It is not big enough for 9 girls. It’s definitely not big enough for 9 girls who are crawling the walls thanks to the sugar I had just fed them because I thought it’d be nice to give them a treat and because I thought they’d be running it off at the park. Rain plans are never my thing and usually, it works out for me. Not so much here.



























